What I Get Out of Support Groups
A mental health support group is a place where you can meet people who are going through similar challenges as you. A support group is a great place to share your feelings, thoughts, and experiences.
In 2013, I started coming to NAMI fresh out of an intensive outpatient program. Actually, I waited a few months to come because I was really afraid of what I might find. What I found at NAMI was support groups and acceptance.
The word schizophrenia didn’t seem to scare anybody. My stinging loneliness and isolation were soothed a bit, and then soothed a bit more. In groups, I was able to connect with others who understood what I was going through. The empathy and compassion that was offered began to interfere with the voice in my head that told me I was worthless.
In a support group, I was able to express my emotions in a safe and supportive environment, and begin to release some of the tension and stress that filled my mind. I also learn from others how they cope with their problems and found new ways to manage my own.
Talking openly and honestly about my feelings and beliefs, I was able to learn how to be myself. Gradually I was able to share my true feelings without fear of being criticized or rejected. Through group wisdom I learned that I could receive feedback and advice from others who had faced similar situations and learn from their perspectives.
Instead of feeling worthless, I learned practical information and resources about my condition. Instead of being home alone and believing the voices in my head, I learned new skills to deal with my challenges, such as relaxation techniques, mindfulness exercises, or problem-solving skills.
Over time, I made friends, real friends. Over time I was able to do the unthinkable, invite someone over to my house. Today I have a handful of the best friends I have ever had. Real friendships take time to develop. I was able to take my time, which was something else I learned how to do.
Today I still go to support groups. Today I am now a facilitator of a women’s group. It’s an opportunity to give back and be of service, and it’s an opportunity to give to others what was given to me.